An experienced professional therapist using emotionally focused couple therapy will achieve secure couple bonding in 12 to 20 sessions.  Gains are stable months after the original therapy.  Couples who achieve bonding are able to weather storms that pull many marriages apart and severely strain others.

What is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy?

 Emotionally focused couple therapy pays attention to emotions to guide rebuilding of a emotionally safe couple connection, secure attachment.  The main goal of the therapy is to repair, build and strengthen couple bonding.  Some of the stages in the therapy is outlined in Sue Johnson's book: Hold Me Tight.

Recent progress in couple therapy has shown that our emotions can be a key to the single most important marriage issue: couple bonding.

In Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy the marital therapist will:

1. I will help you to track down the primary emotional issue in intimate relationships and how that is effecting your marriage.

2. We will learn to identify the usual pattern your marriage issues take and learn to address that when it happens.

3. I will affirm the research and your own intuition that a lot of emotional security rides on the relationship with your marital partner.

4. We will observe and track with the feelings that occur in interaction patterns and learn to speak with clarity about some of the emotions that sometimes hide behind the surface of these patterns.

5. You will learn to repair relationship wounds.  What to do when hurt and trust keeps cycling back to a unresolved issue.

6. In doing this we will be developing tools for conflict resolution, trust development and deeper bonding.

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