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What are the ways that we destroy marital intimacy and create a silent divorce?
There are many ways that one can limit the personal, the connection, the bonding, the love connection in a marriage or sexually active couple relationship and end up in a silent divorce.
Avoid eye contact in sexual contact perhaps by always having the light out.
Avoid the calming down together after sexual relations.
In conversation, avoid topics that are close and personally relevant.
Minimize connection by talking from distant rooms.
If in the same room sit out of contact at a great distance from the other.
Do not acknowledge or connect with the other's feelings.
Do not ask the other for anything.
Don't tell them when you are in difficulty and need support.